“I think she did love me, for a minute, for a second, for the time it takes to remember, for the time it takes to forget. We had twenty-eight days together and then I was gone.”—The Stone Gods | Jeanette Winterson
Recently, on my Humorless Feminist Shrew pinboard, I mentioned that modesty standards for women’s attire contribute to the rape culture. The man I’d repinned commented that he took this to mean I’d called him a rapist, and he was not a rapist, therefore feminism was wrong, etc. We’ve all heard this particular argument before.
But I happened to be thinking about Jurassic Park at the time, and realized it’s a near-perfect illustration of the difference between being a rapist and contributing to rape culture, which anti-feminists so often like to gloss over.
And now we get to talk about Dennis Nedry.
Dennis Nedry is not a velociraptor. He is a programmer, and he certainly has his faults, but he did not actually mutilate nor devour anyone on Isla Nublar. His actions, however, certainly made it much easier for the velociraptors to devour many people, including Samuel L. Jackson and the glorious Robert Muldoon.
Bonus point: velociraptors will attack anyone vulnerable, regardless of how that person is clothed.
In sum: rape culture means that you help shut down the fences that keep us safe from predators. Don’t be That Guy.
“"Explore me", you said and I collected my ropes, flasks, and maps expecting to be back home soon. I dropped into the mass of you and I cannot find the way out. Sometimes I think I’m free, coughed up like Jonah from the whale, but then I turn a corner and recognize myself again. Myself in your skin, myself lodged in your bones, myself floating in the cavities that decorate every surgeon’s wall. That is how I know you. You are what I know.”—Jeanette Winterson (via rarararambles)
“it’s like forgetting the words to your favorite song. you can’t believe it; you were always singing along. it was so easy and the words so sweet. you can’t remember; you try to feel the beat. you spend half of your life trying to fall behind. you’re using your headphones to drown out your mind. it was so easy and the words so sweet. you can’t remember; you try to move your feet.” - eet, regina spektor